Teen Safety Plan
WHY DO I NEED A SAFETY PLAN?
Everyone deserves a relationship that is healthy, safe and supportive. If you are in a relationship that is hurting you, it is important for you to know that the abuse is not your fault. It is also important for you to start thinking of ways to keep yourself safe from the abuse, whether you decide to end the relationship or not. While you can’t control your partner’s abusive behavior, you can take action to keep yourself as safe as possible.
WHAT IS A SAFETY PLAN?
A safety plan is a practical guide that helps lower your risk of being hurt by your abuser. It includes information specific to you and your life that will help keep you safe. A good safety plan helps you think through lifestyle changes that will help keep you as safe as possible at school, at home and other places that you go on a daily basis.
HOW DO I MAKE A SAFETY PLAN?
Take some time for yourself to go through each section of this safety planning workbook. You can complete the workbook on your own, or you can work through it with a friend or an adult you trust.
Keep in Mind:
* In order for this safety plan to work for you, you’ll need to fill in personalized answers, so you can use the information when you most need it.
* Once you complete your safety plan, be sure to keep it in an accessible but secure location. You might also consider giving a copy of your safety plan to someone that you trust.
* Getting support from someone who has experience working with teens in abusive relationships can be very useful.
Below are links to Safety Plans. These are “plans” that help to create a plan for your safety. You can work with an advocate, hotline person or a trusted adult to put your safety first.
Teen Safety Plan http://www.ncdsv.org/images/FVPF_CreateATeenSafetyPlan.pdf
Please take the time to look at the Equality Wheel. http://www.ncdsv.org/images/teenequalitywheelnoshading-ncdsv.pdf
This wheel shows what a healthy and respectful relationship looks like.
For more reading about what to look for in unhealthy relationships please read Signs of Emotional Abuse
This article looks deeper into some of the behavior listed and much more.
Know your relationship rights!
According to www.loveisrespect.org this is a list of your rights in a relationship:
> You have the right to privacy, both online and off.
> You have the right to feel safe and respected.
> You have the right to decide who you want to date or not date.
> You have the right to choose when/if you have sex and who you have sex with.
> You have the right to say no at any time to sex, to drugs/alcohol, to a relationship; even if you’ve said yes before.
> You have the right to hang out with your friends and family and do things you enjoy, without your partner getting jealous or controlling.
> You have the right to end a relationship that isn’t right or healthy for you.
> You have the right to live free from violence and abuse.
Important Numbers and Links and Support
Love is respect Hotline: 1-866-331-9474
Break the Cycle 202-824-0707
S.A.F.E. House Hotline: 702-564-3227
Internet Safety Alert
Your abuser can monitor the use of your computer and the Internet. Learn how to protect yourself.