Are You In Danger?
Domestic violence is a pattern of assault and coercive behaviors in which an individual establishes and maintains power and control over another with whom he/she has an intimate, romantic, marital or family relationship.
Danger Assessment List
Each situation of intimate partner violence is different and there are no true indicators that will point to the fact that the violence will occur again, or how severe. However, there are indicators that increase the likelihood that you may be in danger. This is a basic list and you should only use this as a guide. You know your situation better than anyone and should consider that when looking at this list.
On a scale from 1-10, 10 being the highest and 1 being the lowest:
How dangerous do you think your partner is? __________
How safe do you feel? __________
Yes or No Questions to ask yourself:
Has the frequency of the abuse increased? (Is it happening more often?) __________
Has the severity of the abuse increased? (Are the injuries getting worse?) __________
Does your partner use drugs or alcohol? __________
Is your partner obsessive? (Is he/she very controlling?) __________
Do you feel isolated (or does your partner restrict who you can have contact with)? __________
Are there, or has there ever been, weapons involved? __________
Does your partner suffer from mental illness (suicidal or strange behaviors)? __________
Does your partner force you to have sex? __________
Perform sexual acts that you do not want to do? __________
Is your partner abusive to the children? __________
Is your partner abusive to animals? __________
Are you pregnant, or has your partner abused you while you were pregnant? __________
Abuse is not always physical:
Non-Physical Indicators of Abuse:
My partner screams and yells at me. __________
My partner insults or shames me in front of others. __________
My partner does not respect my feelings. __________
My partner frightens me. __________
My partner demands I listen to them __________
My partner does not like me to spend time with family or friends __________
My partner demands that I stay home, or follows me when I leave _____
My partner goes through my belongings, my mail, my email and my phone __________
My partner cheats on me __________ Gave me an STD __________
Takes your money or never gives you money __________
Does your partner tell you you’re a bad parent and/or that they will take or hurt your children ____
Has your partner threatened to commit suicide? ______
Act like it is your entire fault, call you crazy or try to make you feel crazy? __________
These are important signs that you may be in danger.
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